Transitioning to elderly home care typically isn’t just challenging for the senior(s), but also for the entire family as well. If you are getting used to the transition, you are not alone.
Your first few visits may be difficult. Your loved one may be angry with you or feel abandoned. You may feel guilty or overwhelmed. But be patient, allow yourself to recognize the bad days and appreciate the good ones. Both parties need time to adjust.
If you are experiencing a bumpy transition, here are some tips that can help you, your loved one(s) and your family during this time.
What to Expect
As time progresses, your senior loved ones and you will feel more at ease with the decision and transition. The change requires time to adjust, plan and understand. Emotions may be heightened within the first few days and weeks, but take some time to plan out the time after you’ve made the transition. If you need support, make adequate plans with family and friends. If you need time, be honest and let them know.
The beginning may be a bit confusing for both you and your loved one. You are both getting used to a new routine, a new schedule and a new environment. You may feel lost navigating through this transition, but staff can help you adjust.
Your loved one may make negative comments that leave you with a guilty conscience. He or she may want to go home, which you should acknowledge the desire. Instead of ignoring the situation, communicate and understand the struggle of your loved one. Sometimes their negative comments are a sign for just an ear that’ll listen and let me feel secure, offer comfort and let out a cry.
The conversation may be a process but offer your loved one room for emotions during the transition, empathize and offer comfort. If you need to release your emotions, separate it from your loved one and turn to family, friends and others in your support network.
As time progresses, when you have time, take an objective look. Step back and evaluate the weeks and months leading to date. Recognize your feelings with a rational and grounded state of mind. Then create a workable schedule for visits and phone calls, which may include others in your scheduling efforts so that your loved one has a steady flow of visitors.
How to Help Your Loved One Transition
Home is where the heart is. The transition into an elderly home care creates a foreign environment. To help your loved one feel more at home, make their new home as comfortable and personal as possible.
Some tips to help create an at-home atmosphere include:
- Capture and recreate the same mood, texture and tone of your loved one’s former home.
- Bring things that your loved one has made or collected.
- Add comfort with their favorite items.
- Add family photos or children’s homemade crafts.
- Change up décor for the holidays.
- Stimulate all the senses with soft fabrics, colorful artwork or scented accents.
- Bring the outdoors indoors with fresh flowers, colorful and vibrant plants and other seasonal reminders to brighten up the room.
- Add magazines, books and newspapers for entertainment.
If you are or someone you love is transitioning into an elderly home care, contact the compassionate and certified caregivers of Options In-Home Care today. Located in the greater Los Angeles, San Bernardino or Orange County areas of California, the caregivers of Options In-Home Care are here to assist you and your loved ones!